'I know he is going to regret it if he pursues D. I have to make sure he knows he is making a mistake. Essentially --- I have to SAVE him.'
'If I let him go too far or too long, he won't come back'
'I have to keep reminding him of me/us'
'I have to keep reminding him of our family'
It's 'nice' to see that I'm not the only one that feels that way. Because of my W's family life, I've always felt like the 'saver' in our R. I find myself often thinking 'if I could only stop her from making this big mistake...'
To be honest MDU, I'm actually envious of your current situation. You at least have been given a 'chance' of trying to reconcile, no matter how difficult it may seem to you right now. That's all some of us on here are looking for- a chance. Keep your eyes on the present and try to not look too far ahead. I'm rooting for you!
