(And just FWIW, sho, I took the soft/be-the-cheating-spouse's-BFF stance the FIRST time my H cheated, in 2005. Clearly, it didn't work. Obviously, I'm only a few months into THIS round of piecing. But my H has told me that my "confidence" is what drew him back home this time. He's even told me that the strong stance I took irritated the snot outta him at the time but that he actually respects me more for fighting for him and our family. Just remember to do what works for you and your family.)
Wait, I thought "Do what works" was the very heart of DBing???
