Lucky? I think Starsky has some of the best advice out there. Why? Because it works. Sho, do not be the doormat. If you want to take the "be the better man" approach, make sure you are doing it for YOU!
I wanted to go back to this, from your other thread, Sho because it brings up something I wanted to note (and no, it's not the nice things that Shocked said about me, lol).
I think WHICHEVER tack you take, you have to check your motives. Frankly, I've seen far less people who came across as being vindictive or in any way desiring of "shaming" their wayward spouse than I have of people who say they're taking the more passive, "standing" approach out of some sort of pious, unconditional love when in reality their threads just OOZE fear, co-dependence and did I say fear?
We ALWAYS need to check our motives, because the truth is that us flawed humans will rarely seek the tougher road, and we'll often try to rationalize our decisions and cloak them in some sort of rationale that's much higher and mightier than what it really is.
