Once she ends this A, we can go back to repairing our R.
BINGO.
Physiologically, she's going to be emotionally blocked off to you anyway as long as she is in contact with OM. (Google "PEAs endorphines brain love lust" and read some of what it returns).
It's also best for your self-esteem and self-protection.
It's ALSO best for your wife to see that there are boundaries her husband believes in, that -- if crossed -- are dealbreakers for him. There is a COMFORT in that, and my wife told me after we reconciled that she respected my tough stance and how I fought for our marriage and our family. She said it was "comforting" (altho she was P*SSED at the time) to know that I had values and things that were non-negotiable, and that I was willing to fight for them.
