WAW having an A but she denies it #2

[Train]

Yes, sho.

I think SO many of us are blind-sided when As happen. Looking back, we can see that things maybe weren't as great - or steady-going - as we thought. Good ol' hindsight, eh?

I think that's why some people say that after an A is over, it can actually be one of the best things to happen to a M. Or, at least it can make a M a lot stronger. These "scares" cause us to wake up every day, deliberately trying to meet our spouses' needs in a way we didn't before. At the same time, they cause us to dig deep to remember the people we really are ... who are the people our spouses fell in love with.

Who was THAT sho? I could be wrong, but judging even from your very first posts, I expect he was strong and confident.

Sounds, too, like you're a romantic. And W got to see that in you even recently. Good!

Those "old-flame As," from what I've read, die hard. So brace yourself for that, of course.

But you just be the man your family needs, always keeping the family's best interests at heart. You have a great head start.

Have you read "His Needs, Her Needs"? It was recommended to me here at the beginning of my sitch and really helped me a lot.