Wife wants marriage with OM, is there any hope?

[MrBond]

I'm thinking you may never understand our posts to you. The fact that you respond so quickly and defensively without really understanding what we are posting to you shows that.

None of that stuff you mentioned above matters to her.

The BIGGEST thing you need to change is your attitude. Your self-centered thinking that the only thing that matters is what YOU think and not your W.

YOU want to sweep things under the rug (even though your W still hurts) because YOU don't want to deal with it. YOU think she deserves to go to hell (yes you do because it comes out in your posts), even though YOU had plenty of A's. YOU don't want her to find a man to be happy with because YOU think you're a great catch.

YOU don't want to change your attitude and try to see things from her POV because evidently you're incapable of it. So it depends if you are willing to try to do that. If not, then give your W a D and let her be happy.