Dealing with WAW Part 3

[pilot]

I can't win. If I reply and try to again clarify that my challenging/questioning of statements meant to help is not with the intent of being defensive but how I find it best for me to process information, I come across as defensive. If I leave it alone, then assumptions are incorrectly made. It is frustrating and not why I am here.

I am here to learn and hopefully at the same time gain some valuable advice on how to best deal with a situation I have never been in, and others have. As much of the advice is counter intuitive, it comes across as confusing and not familiar to me. So I ask questions and challenge. Not because I am rejecting the ideas, but because I am extremely curious about them. My defense mechanism is to ignore. When I do not reply, then I am being defensive.