MrBond - I've been trying to change myself since I discovered this site. I've been working on my self-esteem. I've been going back to the gym. I'm spending more time with my friends and family, on the phone and in person.

I've been very thoughtful to my wife's time, and have been actively making her days easier by focusing on taking care of things around the house (and the kids) so she has more free time.

The hardest part is trying to detach from her emotionally, and I'm hanging onto every bit of hope that she will some day come back to me. I just need to stop forcing the issue and trying to control anyone else except myself.

I know these things. It's just really really difficult, especially for a person like me.

M: 15 years
BD: 6/25/14
EA/PA: starts 5/14/14
11/30/14 - A ends
5/15/15 - D is finalized.
11/28/15 - Start of new LTR with a wonderful woman (and still going strong)!