WAW having an A but she denies it #2

[shodan]

Train, thanks for the feedback and input. I would say that I am in an OK place, trying to be a PapaBear for my family. What really stinks is I miss being together as a family. Since early May, things have not been right. I suspect that my W started this A before May. We have not been doing too much together but when we do, before I knew about the A, it has been pretty great. But now that I know about the A, I cannot get that feeling back until she ends it and we work on our M. I know I need to take the hard line, I know that I need to be tough. I know I need to GAL but I felt like I had it all before this happened. A great family, great wife, great job, etc. I know we did not spend enough together as H and W, but I figured that was the growing pains of M and having two kids, 10 and 7. I honestly never knew how unhappy my W and that it would/could end our M. So part of me wants to show her just how great things can be/are, but it is hard to do that when I know about the A and she is not being truthful. I want to send her a pictures of the kids doing fun things with me (I did this before I knew about the A) and text her on Saturday to say "meet us out at X place" and order a bottle of wine for us. But I know I cannot do that.

So what motivates me is that I know my kids love our family. Living in separate homes and not having a Mom and Dad at dinner together is not a family. I love our family. So I need to be strong.

Thank you to everyone for their continued encouragement and advice.