Spinning away, both of us actually.....

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WR,
I'm very glad to come here and see that you've posted an update. Geesh, your h still doesn't get it...does he honestly think that you would sit there for a number years and then opt to divorce? The destruction that he's created is still going on and you have to wonder sometimes what he's thinking.

Any way, I'm glad you are finally getting your mortgage and financials ironed out. Be sure he understands fully what he's signing and that here's no coming back later and wanting more from you. As for his tools, etc., at some point you'll have to give him a deadline...but if the filings aren't done until the end of this year, you've got plenty of time for him to pick his stuff up. However, once you are divorced, I'd have him pick his stuff up or haul it to a storage facility and pay the first month's rent and give him the key and wave ta ta and go on about your merry way. You've given him ample time to come get the stuff he's been crying the blues about for a long time.

Congratulations to your son for his bike ride and the money he earned for cancer research. You have to be so proud of him. I'm sorry his father was a putz and didn't come out to support him. Your h has missed out on so much that can't be replayed at a later date. Sounds like your younger son is finally starting to feel comfortable being around his father. I hope that they can continue to bond.

I'm also glad to see that you are starting to heal and are going out. You need some time to yourself and explore the world to see what is out there waiting for you.

Please take care of yourself and know that we are here to support you any way that we can.

Hang in there!