Is your IC helping you with any of this!?!? If not, you need to find a new one, stat. You've been at this for months and are still mostly stuck. How can you find the inner strength (and outside support) to help you get UNSTUCK?
Actually the new one is the MC and we see her seperately. SHE is helping. The waste of money and time was my old IC, I realized she only listened to me vent and bellyache, said two words to me, took my cash and made the next appointment. That was the waste of money The new one has told me that in the four weeks she has seen a big change.
Originally Posted By: claire7
She is making her choice. What is YOUR choice? You cannot control what she says, does, thinks. You can only control YOU. Will you continue to engage with her in a friendly way? To pursue her? To go on dates with her? When she continues to make this choice?
Think about a boundary you want to set for yourself. Re-read the threads about BOUNDARIES (which are different than demands-- which you cannot make). Set some boundaries.
You are allowing her to hurt you. Have you addressed this in IC? There seems to be a major self-esteem issue going on here. How can you work on that?
You are right, I know she once said I deserved to be hurt over what happened in the marriage, but now she cries and says she does not want to hurt me anymore.
