Saving my marriage by focusing on ME!

[Oxford1]

It's OK for us to disagree, agreeably, Ox. I was mainly just capturing those thoughts for others following along, in case they could take anything from them. "Passive-aggressive" is just about the worst way to DB, so I was pointing it out.

Your wife is an odd bird, so who knows. Maybe this will all work out for you two. I certainly hope so.


Starsky

Don't get me wrong you are 1000 times correct about MY passive aggressive behavior.
That's what I meant . I have been this way and controlling for a long long time.
So I have been focused on that issue.
My point was maybe that's why now I have been so passive to her. The proverbial walking on EGG Shells comes to mind.

For years in public my friends and family would say"Ox why are you so afraid of your wife"
But once we were alone I was awful! (In terms of arguing and dealing with her previous attacks...I should have just walked out of the room)