Ready for some forum help

[NewB3]

I have read both DR and DB. I have kids at home and can only read late at night when the older child goes to bed. I can do that and/or get on this forum. I drive one hour to work each way.
Trying to detach....doing 180's. I have specific things that happen at times that I want some feedback for.
GAL is hard with all my time being used. However, I do workout at night. Have lost 30lbs. Since December. ( yes started diet prior to BD) feel good, look good, wear cologne sometimes.( used to wear when we first met, only for her on dates)

Goals
Attend couples therapy ( took replying to D papers with a letter to courts) she agreed prior to court answer (in good faith) for a few sessions, I had asked for a neutral therapist with 12 or more sessions for reconcile and/or closure (accomplished)
Detach (working on it)
Follow sandi2 rules (accomplishing daily)
Stay focused on what I want and stay positive ( accomplished daily)
Take of my family and their needs too, includes wife (daily)
Being a better person, positive, supportive, friendly. (Daily)

Very nervous about Monday therapy appointment. I know when I say reconcile, she will get mad. Too bad, I am doing this for my child and me. This is what I want for us. Our sitch is bad right now, but there is something there and always has been. More than friends.