WAW having an A but she denies it

[shodan]

For six weeks now since the BD, I have been heavily invested in 180s and focusing on ME. I made drastic changes in my life, was more present for my family and W and planned fun events. My W noticed these changes (she told me). So if I had not discovered the A, I would have continued down this path.

However, knowing about the A changes everything for me. With OM in the picture, we cannot work on our M. But I also understand the risk of telling anyone else about the A. My reason for doing so is not to shame my W. She has done that on her own. My reason is she will look to her friends for advice and if they hear her side of the story only, the advice will be skewed and prejudiced.