Ugh- this is so frustrating.

H will not allow me to go dark. He is being persistent. Insisting he's coming by to drop stuff off or pick stuff up, blah blah blah.

I don't feel like I can just ignore him because he's giving me money- don't bite the hand that feeds ya!

So today he sends an email letting me know the rent money he's been giving me (from his house he owned for over 20 years that is currently rented out) will stop coming in April when he moves back there. I'm not sure if it was a "heads up" type of notice or him being insensitive and just reinforcing to me that he's not coming home.

Of course it made my stomach drop because I'm not detached enough. I recovered quickly, though.

I want space from him!!! Can someone, anyone with experience with this tell me how to be a safe place for him to land AND keep him at arms' length so I can regain my footing.

He's supposed to be here Saturday morning to get one of the dogs for the week. It upsets me he's taking the dog- she's part of the family. I don't want to be here when he comes, but not sure if I should----- haven't seen each other in a month.

I hate this.

Last edited by artsy; 07/23/14 10:56 PM.
Me: 39
H: 45
Second marriage for both
H left 12/2013
M:4 T:5.5