WAW having an A but she denies it

[Train]

Smart to not reply, sho.

I always asked myself this when deciding to respond to my H's texts, especially when he was lashing out or playing the victim (both of which happened VERY often):

1. Is the text asking a question? If yes, then is it a valid question that warrants a response?
2. Is this an emergency?
3. Does the text have anything to do with the children?

Everything else, I just ignored.

It bugged the crap out of him, but that's not why I did it. I ignored him so that I wouldn't engage with him and make our sitch even worse.

Watch that technology, man. It's brutal sometimes. But take heart: you aren't the first person who has hit the wrong button or sent something to the wrong person. A valuable saying I would tell myself when I would slip-up: "When you find yourself in a hole, stop digging."

You are one smart cookie.