Thanks for this feedback and your suggestions. You are good at this.
I think I am just going to ignore it. Pull away a bit. Let her come to me.

Me: 40, W: 40
M: 15, T: 18
D - 10, S - 7
D announcement 6/7/2014
A discovered 7/20/2014 (but denied by W)
Still living together and sharing same bed