Matt, the detachement started out to save my sanity, and to give H the space he needed as he goes thru "this". It turned into me seeing changes I needed to make to be a better me. I know I will be OK with or without my H, I know Im a better person and will continue to work on me.

AJ, I know I want a better M and R with my H. I know I will not accept less then what I deserve. I see my R with my H much clearer now, see where we both made mistakes. I just dont know if my H can or wants to be the H I deserve and want, and I dont know how long I will continue standing. I do know I will continue to work on being a better person.

Job,thanks I will search for Raine and read the post AJ refered to.

Family went to amusement park yesterday, H did a few things that surprised me, when we all sat to eat lunch, H made sure to sit by me, I invited H to ride ferris wheel alone and H did, as we took breaks in park H made effort to sit with me...just little things but I noticed. Once we left park I kissed H on cheek and told him thanks for being patient at park and hanging out. H does not really enjoy amusement parks, we went with adult kids/grandkids, our son, and some other family. H is still sleeping in bed now each night (hope this continues) and H initatied sex without the hints,,,but more how he use to.

THANKS everyone

Me 43 ring off Oct 2014 (my ring back on Feb 2015)
H 51 (ring off 7/2013)
M 2007 T 1996
S 14
July 2013- H told me he was unhappy.....said he is staying for Son
Feb 18 2014 Found out about OW