Some part of me (the detective part I think) is still searching for "why". I keep thinking there is something about her that is better than me. More desirable and I have this nagging need to figure out why. But I will probably never know why. And that bugs me.
The answer, pure and simple? Like most MLCers, he gravitated towards her because A) she was available and willing, and B) she makes him feel like a big man because she is less than him.
It's surprisingly common for WASs to "affair down"; funny how seldom we read about the WASs going off with a doctor or supermodel, right? But very common for them to run off with someone who is "less than" their spouse.
And my ex, when we were reconciling from his first affair, actually told me that he felt disappointed at the time that his affair partner was so plain! (She fulfilled his Asian fantasy, but in a very plain Chinese peasant sort of way lol). He actually felt cheated that he didn't have a more attractive girlfriend lol!!!
So no - your ex's affair doesn't have to do with you, it has to do with HIM, and HIM feeling like a loser so he needs someone who is even MORE of a loser so he can still feel like the big man.
And I would quit answering his calls except when they are important. I have a feeling your cell phone is going to start getting very glitchy very soon
