Hi cq1, congrats in getting your W to come to you!

I agree that now is not the time to start being loving and sweet to her however. Sounds like she is still lying and that you both have a lot to work on.

What about MC or something like that? Or IC?

I also do think you need to be firm about what is going on with the OM. Does his wife now know? I forget. I guess if she really wants to work on your M she will agree to be transparent about what is going on with OM. I'm not sure exactly what that entails but the vets can tell you the details. If she is still sneaking around and lying then yeah, forget about it.

Is there a financial or other kind of reason that she would want to stay with you? Like Sandi2 said, maybe then she is just playing you to get more time.

I am sending you strength and luck! Keep on doing your 180s and GAL. Watch to see what she does!

Hugs, Lisa

Me: 34 H: 30
M: 4 years
BD: 6/15/14
He moved out 6/30/14
OW1: EA then PA after BD
Now he's dating multiple OWs
I'm over it and moving on.