So one minute she is literally saying she wants a D, and in the next minute she changed her story. Did you not question it? Do you have any type of agreement or plan in place, or was it more like she offered and you jumped on it without discussing conditions?
Why start out on lies? Nothing has changed. My bet is whenever she told OM she informed you she wanted a D, he told her it would be a while yet before he could leave his W and kids. So she had to make a u-turn in order to put you off filing.
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In addition, she wants us both to be apart as much as we can so she can have more space in figuring out what she wants
Exactly! Nothing has changed! She's still saying she doesn't know what she wants. Which is code for "I'm waiting to see what OM is going to do,". OM is her plan "A". You are the backup. If you EVER lay out your boundaries, it needs to be now. But I don't see a woman who wants to be in a MR here. I see someone bidding her time for security reasons. Just the other day, she and OM was still sneaking around. As long as she can simply deny it, then it keeps working for her. Have you made any requirements, or were you just planing to continue be the "pleaser"?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
