Update...since my stance in being done with fighting for our M, W has came to me tonight and wanted to work on our M. I reluctantly accepted. Because deep down I still love her. Now with this new change in my Sitch, I'm still skeptical about if it's sincerely true. I held back and didn't pursue or chase after the conversation. Three hours before she came to me we got into a heated discussion on our R. I stood my ground and spoke in a calm manner that I agreed that our R was done. I was just after the truth. She didn't admit that she still talks to the OM. She continued to lie and I knew that we were over. I stuck it to her that I didn't care about our M anymore. I simply wanted to leave this R with honesty and truth. She held her ground and didn't admit to her lies. She knew that I was serious because when she wanted to leave I did not pursue her at all.
I need suggestions from DBers on how I should handle this. Vets or anyone please help me shed light on this new twist of fate. How should I handle it??
We're still not sleeping on the same bed or in the same room. Im fine with that because I dont want to push things. Rather take it slow and watch her actions in determining if this is just a fluke.
So again, how should I be??? Should I jump right in and be the loving and caring H? I know my answer ...No. So then how should I be around her? In a way I want to be the best husband so she can see the changes that I've accomplished. My 180s are still in the works and I know that they are for me. im theilled that my LRT worked and she finally took a step towards me. She even reached out and held my hand as she spoke. I just dont want to get hurt all over again. so until then my guard will be up until she wins my trust back.
As for tomorrow morning, I want to reiterate to her that in order for us to make the best of this, I will not be comfortable if she still talks to the OM. I don't want to be controlling. But I will show her in words that out of respect anyone in my Sitch would want this and not even have to ask. I just feel that i should saynit to here, so she knows and hopefull realizes that my reasoning is profound. And I need to get this out because of what Ive seen and how hurtful this A was.
I've been also thinking, that Im still being played by them two. I just need to be careful and watch for signs.
