Thanks for this advice. The coffee thing is just something that I have been doing. I would make it for a neighbor.
Now that I have drawn the line in the sand re: the M and the A and told her that we cannot move forward until the A is over, do I bring this up again when I see her in person this weekend or do I just let it be said what I said? She knows my stance, knows that I know about the A and knows that I want her to end it. My gut says not to bring it up again. She needs her space to think about it.
Me: 40, W: 40 M: 15, T: 18 D - 10, S - 7 D announcement 6/7/2014 A discovered 7/20/2014 (but denied by W) Still living together and sharing same bed