I, too, am very impressed with your stance, Sam. Seems you're in a very good place, especially considering the crappy circumstances. I, too, was unsure about where I wanted to "be" with my wayward H. He had as much to prove to ME as I had to prove to HIM, if that makes sense.

One thing I found valuable from re-reading DR is a part where MWD writes that sometimes time is better spent figuring out "where to go from here" instead of "where did we go wrong?"

Have to admit: a little birdie told me to stop by so I've read this thread only. Will hop back to the other ASAP and get caught up.

Meanwhile, I think you're handling things fabulously.

Keep it up!


M: 40 H: 44
Married 14 years
S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M
2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart
Piecing: April 2014