WAW having an A but she denies it

[Train]

I'll defer to Starsky re: the sleeping situation.

As for coffee? Do you make coffee for yourself and her at the same time? Or do you make it specifically for her in the morning?

I mean, I have my own opinion about that. You don't want to come across as being petty and snarky. I, for one, see nothing wrong with you making coffee in the morning. That is a neighborly, subtle gesture that keeps her feeling her road back into the M is smoothly paved. But it doesn't feel like "pressure" or "pursuit" to me.

Re: martial arts: if it doesn't feel good - or if it doesn't MAKE you feel good - right now, don't do it. This GAL thing shouldn't feel "forced," per se, except to the extent that you're having to force yourself to do things that make you happy when you'd otherwise be rocking back and forth in a closet, avoiding the real world because you feel your whole world is crumbling. Do things that make you happy and give your PMA a boost. If it stresses you? Don't do it.

At the same time, if attempting MA again is something you could do to prove to yourself that you can do it without it causing you stress - in other words, if you can make that *your own* 180 in *your own* life - then go for it!

I hope that makes sense.