WAW having an A but she denies it

[shodan]

wow, great advice here. I may try to work back into martial arts, but I need to tread lightly for myself. It was causing me to be a different person. It made me stressed, which caused anxiety for everyone, b/c I was practicing a lot. My kids were also doing it and because of my tenure in the art, it caused them stress as well. But I agree, going back 1-2 nights per week may not be to bad if I can make it work with the kids. But my kids will go back ONLY if they want to.

Another question...we sleep in the same bed (when she is here). I assume I tell her to sleep in another room now that I have confirmed the A? Also, I make her coffee in the morning. Should I stop doing that (I would do that for a neighbor). Trying to figure out the balance between a hard line and just plain not nice.

And again, I want to thank you for all of your support. The hole in my heart is a little smaller today. I hope to perhaps even get some sleep tonight.