"Speak Softly": The Amoeba Whisperer!

[GoatGal]

Here's where I'm sticking. This dovetails with Sho's thread, comments by Starsky and Train.

My H has filed for divorce.
He thinks we're "separated" but there has been no discussion of what that means other than I threw him out and he has not asked to return.
He's living rent-free at a friend's place, since Feb 2.

He quit therapy when he filed, saying that he is "at peace" with this decision.
No discussion about "why" other than he said he "prefers shallow R and porn". Sexually. He would not discuss whether or not he was interested in a R that was anything more than that.

I have been GALing, 180ing, PMAing my butt off.

I see that my withdrawing has made him angry, there has been some nastiness towards me since I went darker.

I am confident. Independent. Won't stand for crap.
Maybe I'm overdoing it?

Honestly, I am enjoying my life.

I have stopped relying on him for anything.

This seems to have pushed him further away...


I don't want to be "friendly" if he is trying to CHEAT on me.
To me, we're still married and yes, it is cheating.

Clearly in his mind it "doesn't count."
But I guarantee that even if he believes that, he wouldn't be happy if I started "dating".

I have told him that I don't believe it is right to involve other people in our R until divorce.
He did not agree nor disagree.

MLC... What can I say?

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Sorry. I am really foggy today. Probably not making much sense.


---GGG