What is the PTSD of your h's you keep referring to? And what is there about your past that would trigger his PTSD?
I'm confused.
But before I finish your thread, there's one thing that is very clear.
You do what you know you should NOT do, and you repeat that a lot.
Not sure how I can help you if you deliberately do what you know won't help, like reaching out to your h, who is divorcing you and saying in every way possible that he wants out and feels pressured and does NOT like it. I mean, if that won't stop you from contacting him, that amount of clarity, what will?
Don't do what does not work. That's a simple thing to grasp. It's not easy to DO, but it's not complicated to understand and you really have to get a grip.
You know you have to detach and you know that requires GAL
but all I see are your reasons for staying stuck, and NOT doing what we or the books suggest. No program helps - if you don't follow one.
STOP contacting him. Period. GAL for real. THEN, in time, see where things go.
here's the "math" of it. your consistent changes + sufficient time = change HE can believe in. NO WAS returns to a marriage they left, ever...........
unless
they believe the marriage can be better/different than before. How are you showing him that?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
