Thanks for everything Starsky. The kids do know about the plan. It was just going out to dinner. I just struggle with that piece. How do be nice in front of her but not send the wrong message to her or the kids.
I hope your W is ok (you mentioned pre-op tests).
Missed the 2nd part of this, Sho -- thanks for asking. She has to have sinus surgery next week, so these were just standard pre-op things since she is over 50. All went well.
Wanted to circle back on the family plans. What time do your kids go to bed? I think it would send a strong statement if you kept to your family plans, but after your oldest was down for the night telling your wife "I'm going to go out for about an hour; I won't be late." And being home at a good respectable hour (11-11:30). Go meet a buddy for a beer, or shoot a game of pool by yourself or go to a book store or hit a bucket of balls at a late-night driving range or something.
There is something strong about doing the responsible family thing, but then going out and doing the mysterious manly thing for an hour or two. And prepare for her to blow up your phone with texts while you're out, LOL!!!
