WAH & MLC? - EA/PA - Please Help

[Sam3]

Thank You ss06. I appreciate your feedback. I think you are right. Too much, too soon. We did speak on the phone last night- I asked if he had a plan for something with just us or our family. He said not yet, he was just thinking about it.

We just see each other so little. He is staying 3 hours away. Only comes to see kids every other weekend. Either they leave the house or I leave the house on his weekends.

I said okay, no problem. Just figuring out summer camps for the next couple weeks. Trying not to pressure any talks.

He said he feels he owes it to the marriage to talk about things. He said he is scared that things would be how they were before. I agreed that I did not want that either. He said he would not be asking for anything from me that he didnt have at some other point in the marriage. He did say I feel like you are going to ask for things from me, that you haven't had before.
Maybe I am, because this experience has changed me & I don't want what we had before either.

I did mention something about the past 3 months & he said he did not want to talk about that. He wants to talk about what led us there.

I agreed & tried to stfu about that for now. But how am I supposed to just erase everything he's done in 3 months that have further damaged the marriage? I know they are symptoms. But how do you rebuild trust? This feels like rug sweeping which Im very good at & responsible for getting us into this separation in the first place. I rug swept issues that were major for me. I became resentful & acted it out.