no, we have not met with attorneys. At least she has not mentioned it to me. I doubt she would have, since she really wants me to move to NYC with her. So if we are divorced before that, somewhat hinders his plans.
Would you recommend that I do?
Yes, I think it's wise. You don't have to actually DO anything (I didn't, not for a good two months) but it's always good to know your rights, responsibilities, potential threats, etc. Most that post here report that it's very empowering and calming.
A good family law attorney, preferably one who specializes in paternal custody and "men's rights" issues, can help you better understand the legal landscape in your jurisdiction, and caution you about things to stay away from.
If you go this route, do NOT tell your wife (but if she asks, don't lie to her -- "Yes, I thought it was wise, considering you had openly threatened divorce multiple times and I wanted to better understand my rights and responsibilities.")
