no, we have not met with attorneys. At least she has not mentioned it to me. I doubt she would have, since she really wants me to move to NYC with her. So if we are divorced before that, somewhat hinders his plans.

Would you recommend that I do?

Me: 40, W: 40
M: 15, T: 18
D - 10, S - 7
D announcement 6/7/2014
A discovered 7/20/2014 (but denied by W)
Still living together and sharing same bed