I was going to add: If you pull back a little and treat her like you would a neighbor, she's GOING to notice. And it'll make her wheels start spinnin'.
And that's a good thing.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014