She did WAW, then I did EA, now I'm DBing...poorly

[HeadUp]

Joe you kept saying that she throws the June thing back in your face. Well she is upset so expect that to always come up. Verbal abuse is still abuse. Now I know when I have blown up in the past at my W I would get verbally abusive we would do this me yelling her yelling and she would follow me when I finally said it is time for a break. She broke down the door to the bathroom when I said I needed a break. So I started driving away to take a break. Her yelling at you infront of the kids isn't good for them. I regret allowing myself to yell at their mother while they were up in the house. Wasn't good. Joe when she is yelling at you or starts to follow you are you being calm and collective and being understanding or are you defending yourself or poking at her about something that she might of said to you? We have to be honest to ourselves and look at what we have done or are doing to make any true change.