Thanks Kim, I really needed to hear that. I'm the type of person who, once I make a choice, I stick with that choice. I am very loyal once I am committed. I stay in jobs for long times while everyone else seems to be leaving around me. When I got married, It was "forever", when I had kids I was going to do everything I could to give them the best start in life possible. One company I worked for for 11 years, there were 3 different times when the entire sales staff (15 people) left, but I stayed (turned out that probably wasn't the right thing to do but I was "committed"). For me to turn my back on someone or something I have given my word to stick with is just something I really don't do. Now my W has just turned her back on 25 years of promises and I think it's hard for me to just let it go.
I was fiercely loyal to my wife and very committed to my marriage and family. I guess that part of me is having a hard time letting it go. Thanks again, Kim. I hope for the best for you going forward.
