Oh I know that Heather... I was posting that because when DB'ing you are supposed to make the changes that you can to repair old behaviours/patterns/fights, etc. To do 180's, etc.

I have changed many things about myself... but this is the one area that baffles me. I would still like to know.

But, thanks for the reminder... I have been doing well with detaching again for the last 2 days & spending more time focusing on my thoughts.. not him. When he pops into my head, I am aware & switch to me.

M:46 H:49 T:20yrs
myD:22
H distant summer/12
H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12
BD: Dec 2/12
asked me begin to move end of Jan/13
moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff)
"agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)