Trying Again

[HeadUp]

topgun I have no clue how you are doing what you are doing. I can be wrong but how I am reading this whole situation is that she has the benefits of being married with you helping her out and being able to see the kids on the weekend and you picking her up at the airport and still gets to be single. Every time she has texted you or FB message you, you have responded. Isn't your kids at her mother's house? Why can't she talk to her mom about the kid's? It really does sound like she is having her cake and eat it too.

You are a strong man I am not doubting that at all. And I can honestly say that from what I have seen you post that you love your wife with all your heart and soul. But if she doesn't see that you are moving forward and bettering yourself with or with out her, then I don't see how things are going to change.

DB says to have NC and do 180's and they are tough as hell. I will contest to this one. I want to call my W and touch her and let her know that she isn't a bad person and blah blah blah. But then I am doing the same thing that I have always done which doesn't work. Now I am not saying being mean to her. Yes show her kindness when you talk about the kids. Other than that don't talk to her or about her. I had to humble myself and started talking kindly about my W. I need to be the guy that makes her look like a fool if she leaves.

My W doesn't want to spend time with the kids. It is summer and she has had them for literally 2 weekends the whole 2 months. I don't say anything about this because she has to live with what she is doing and not spending time with them. When she goes and tells someone that she has kids and they ask where they are at or when the last time she saw them, she has to deal with that feeling.

GAL brotha GAL. You will find yourself and be a lot more happier with it. You might even find out something new about you that you didn't think about before. If hundreds of people on this forum can do it (And I am working on being one of them) than you can to.

GAL, NC, 180, and love yourself. You got this keep your head up and keep swinging for the fences. Eventually your going to get that hit.