The point I was making Ken, was that his comparison complaints are constant for many years & he feels that is why we fight. That we do not get along because of these differences. He makes a judgement call that is not fair (blaming me that his life is harder) & holds on to this feeling.
To DB properly, we are supposed to look at what WE can DO, about fixing ourself from these arguments. I am wondering how other couples would handle this situation, as I have exhausted my resources on this battle.
The coffee, pissing, cookies, etc... is HIM telling me that it means something. I wasn't inventing anything. It just doesn't mean anything to me anymore..... because his actions & words aren't lined up.
Last edited by makingmagic; 07/22/1404:54 PM.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
