Dealing with WAW Part 3

[pilot]

I already assumed it. If it turns out just an EA, well great news for me, things just got a whole lot better. Kind of like discovering site work for a foundation already in place exactly where you want to build your house.

Then it does matter to you if it were physical. Can you explain why that is?

Because she was being honest about it from the beginning.

This ^^statement makes me sad. What would you be "RISKING" By complimenting your wife? (The risk to not complimenting her is a lot higher)

I mean going from non pursuing behavior to pursuing behavior.

You have a wife whose love language is WOA. You have a problem expressing positive feelings verbally (though you sure want HER to verbalize things that make her very uncomfortable or even embarrassed/ashamed. Irony much?)

I did/probably still do have a problem expressing positive feelings verbally. And it is quite possible my wife's love language is WOA. While I would love nothing more than to work on that, would it be prudent to express WOA if she was knee deep in the middle of an affair? Probably not. Is she knee deep in the middle of an affair? I dont know. Which is why I have hesitated in our prior contact. Which is also why I am here on the forum feverishly trying to gain nuggets of wisdom, especially in the area of how do I best move forward. I am keenly aware that even if not her primary LL, WOA would greatly help my chances at a R with her, or with anyone for that matter. Believe me I get what you are saying. Just understand that by risk, I only mean the risk of pursuing too quickly.