Just to be honest here. What makes you the moral authority? I mean you cheated on her multiple times and then you told her that you never really loved her, etc. I mean, I have a feeling you just swept things under the rug without really understanding how much she hurt over what you did.
You're right. I did sweep things under the rug three years ago and focused on working on myself -- fighting the addiction to that lifestyle I was living, and being faithful to my wife, and being a good husband. It's not until now that I truly understand how she felt (now that the shoe is on the other foot).
Originally Posted By: MrBond
I notice you focus ALOT on what she's doing wrong now, but haven't really addressed your problems that caused it. I have a feeling that she never really got over the A's you had and still can't trust you.
I have addressed my problems that caused it. Perhaps I didn't articulate it well here. It was ultimately my specific actions that led me to where we are today, but there were underlying problems in our marriage that we both had a hand in and didn't recognize. Yes, she never did get over the As and still can't trust me. I just wish she communicated that with me in the last year or two. We could have addressed them. At the same time, I should have taken responsibility to continually ask her about her feelings.
M: 15 years BD: 6/25/14 EA/PA: starts 5/14/14 11/30/14 - A ends 5/15/15 - D is finalized. 11/28/15 - Start of new LTR with a wonderful woman (and still going strong)!
