Which particular question(s)? Maybe I overlooked them. Sorry.
To answer your questions...
I want to save the marriage because I realize that I do in fact love her, and I also don't want my kids to grow up in a divorced household.
Not sure I understand your question regarding cheating. But let me take a stab anyway. I stopped cheating simply because I came to the realization the destructive lifestyle that I was living and I came to terms with the fact that I did have an addiction. I have been clean for almost three years now.
M: 15 years BD: 6/25/14 EA/PA: starts 5/14/14 11/30/14 - A ends 5/15/15 - D is finalized. 11/28/15 - Start of new LTR with a wonderful woman (and still going strong)!