"Ken.... It must mean something... he is constantly complaining to me & comparing that my life is better. My job is better, etc. He worries more than me, etc.... He is trying to make me feel guilty and that he has bettered my life. When he gets bad news about a work thing, he is sure to tell me about it so that I can worry too (ok, fair enough)... but, even if he has already fixed the issue hours before. He is sure to tell me as though it JUST happened. He allows me to believe its urgent and tries to make me worry too. He wants me to stress too. This comparison/guilt was a main issue for us. We argued about this kind of stuff all the time. Now that we are separated, he still complains that he makes my life better. Like I should reward him, somehow."
my point is, if he did this before, and he's doing it again, then its meaningless. He's not using it to woo you back, he's just a chronic complainer.
my x rarely talks in any voice except complaining. about work, about family, etc. and it meant nothing. that was how her mother talks, thats how every conversation they have together goes. and they dont want solutions. its their method of release.
likewise it sounds like your x is the same, he likes to complain. hes not expecting anything from you, he's really not comparing, he just wants you to sit there and listen and nod. he's venting.
its your choice whether or not it makes you feel one way or the other. or if you dont want to listen at all.
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".
