Finding my way - part 2

[Maybell]

My IC does Emotionally Focused Therapy. He says when you feel physical symptoms of emotional distress, you sit with it for a minute and try to unravel what the feelings are made of. As you name each emotion and its source, you find that it dissipates. The problem isn't solved but you are better able to relax into it and find your patience and other coping skills.

I know exactly what you mean, but it might be helpful to remember that you can't change how you behaved in the past, only how you conduct yourself moving forward -- and really, you only can worry about today. Once you can get your head around those two things, then it is easier to accept that the solution will take time and you can even get enthusiastic about the project of self-improvement (as long as it's SELF improvement for yourSELF).

Give yourself a hug from me and make a plan for how great today is going to be.