Wife wants marriage with OM, is there any hope?

[mindsin]

What I did wrong in the relationship (in order of importance to her, as she has told me):

1. Five years of infidelity.
2. No support, respect, appreciation. Rarely stood up for her. Didn't feel like I had her back.
3. Lack of communication. Inability or unwillingness to share all my deepest feelings with her.
4. Not putting in my fair share into the relationship. She always the giver, I was the taker. The combination of our personalities created the perfect storm for this give/take relationship. She's very much in control of everything. Was forced to take care of her parents at a young age. I was spoiled and most things spoon fed to me when I was younger. Always relied on someone else (parents, wife).