You are all of those things, Artsy! You are beautiful, kind, etcetera and I do think your h wants you to be happy even if he doesn't know what *that* is :-)
I cannot relate to that in my current sitch. I get nothing like that...however, I wonder if your h may be feeling a bit of what my x-bf did. ( mini hijack alert). I dated someone for 7 years. We had similar values and beliefs (strong work ethics, strong sense of family, humor , etc). I knew the entire time he was with my that he still pined over his x-gf. It was this big, ginormous elephant in the room. I wanted to get married and have a family and he did too. However, I knew he was not going to do those things with me. When we discussed and broke up, I loved him and knew I was truly * done* with a R with him. I would have done anything to make it work. I just knew we could be friends even though I realized he just never was going to move forward with me. As soon as we had that convo and I moved out, he pursued me relentlessly. (For the record, he did marry the xbf about a yr and a half after we broke up. She left him a year into the M and he is now married to someone who looks and is very similar to me. It's bizarre!) Now, to be clear, this was not a "I want you back. I love you" type pursuant. This was a "could I really lose my long time, reliable, confidant ?" kind of pursual. However, it was very obvious. Calls. Texts. Several times a day. Drop byes to hang shower curtains. Watch my cat. I'm not saying your h doesn't have a much deeper reason - that I don't know. However, he could be realizing he may actually * lose* you. Be it as his wife, friend, confidant.
I can't say he wants to R. I can't say he would want to make it work. However, your h may finally see that you are truly moving on and he's afraid of losing you and a R in some shape, form or variety. Actions speak louder than words. Does that make sense?
I think you are doing awesome:-). I think our BDs were just a day or do apart? Keep up the good work my friend.
Last edited by Georgiabelle; 07/22/1407:28 AM.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
