Dealing with WAW Part 3

[pilot]

Ok, so I did something new. I initiated a text. Useless one and all. We both like Zak Brown, and one song in particular (about fried chicken...not a love song...haha). So I sent her a fb link to the song because it was on the radio. No words, just a link.
She replied 'good one'.

Again, a useless text and benign answer.

What "use" should it have had? It MUST have a "purpose"? That's too much about an agenda and not enough about enjoying the company of someone or the memory or reaching out just for the sake of it...like people who love us do.


Only significance is that was a completely unsolicited text on my part. First in nearly 8 weeks that was not kid related.

That was the "only" significance? And the "benign answer"....b/c you were expecting, what??

Don't expect! She responded POSITIVELY, Not "benignly".

I cannot imagine what you were hoping for, but her saying "good one" is positive Pilot...

Come on Pilot! In essence, she thanked you for a small thoughtful gesture. With a small thoughtful response. The End.

You can try to build on these^^, or you can complain about them...your choice.

A lot of this is how you choose to perceive it. A WHOLE LOT of this is how you choose to perceive it.

Did you look at those TED Talk videos? The Amy Cuddy one and the Shawn Achor talk on positive psychology (and Amy's was on "fake it til you Become it".)

Both speakers have empirical data that shows how our perceptions CHANGE REALITY, so it's not 'all in our heads" touchy feely vague stuff.

That how we act and behave and what we project, matters in tangible ways.


Please watch those. They are each about 20 minutles long, entertaining and educational to the point where they could each be life changing, (literally).

I think some cognitive changes in you would do wonders.

Food for thought, okay?

I think you misread/misinterpreted me. I have, and always have had zero expectations on our texting. I have used the term benign to describe previous communication without specifics. This time, since I offered a specific I offered the adjective benign so people would relate to what I thought was benign.

My last sentence, "again a useless text and benign answer' was simply a recap or follow up if you will to the prior sentences. It could have been left out. It was not a criticism of the communication in any way.

I recognize her response as positive, as I have recognized all of our recent communication as positive. The ONLY reason I even posted was because it was the first time I was the one to initiate a useless (ok, maybe better put, a non kid, non important) issue. Something that did not have to be sent. And she replied in a positive way, but benign at the same time. It was not "OMG I love this song, lets get back together" and it was not "WTF are you doing texting me, quit it!". It was....benign. I only gave it a description because often other posters will get into detail on their communications, and I was just trying to be as descriptive as possible.

Im not ALL bad