How am I doing this ?

[HeadUp]

Dawg I am truly sorry for what is happening to you. I haven't found your previous thread but I do understand wanting to be there for the kids and keep them out of harms way. But reading Db and reading DR (which honestly give me a swift kick that I needed) it will help you see that there is a chance of making this situation better....for you. You have to stop and detach. It is hard. Read my thread and I am still figuring it out. I have done 180 from what my wife usually sees and I got a little response. Not a huge she wants me back but a little one and I will take that over what I was getting before I read the books. My W would tell me that it is none of my business what she is doing and that hurt. I told her everything I did and this weekend I didn't and I saw results. Like I said minor and I don't believe a thong she says and only half the the things I see.

You have to make her see that you will be fine with or with out her. Inside we hurt and we cry when we are alone and ask God why but you have to start this. The an she fell in love with that was you needs to come back. Let me ask this, when you first got with your wife and you two got serious would you have been ok with her doing what she is currently doing? I realized tonight that in my situation that if the woman I fell in love with was acting like the W I have now and is acting I would have never said let's go out all those many moons ago. I am going to guess and say you wouldn't have been. So find that old dawg and bring him back. Honestly that is the best feeling.

Remember NC, 180, and GAL. It might not save your marriage but it will save your sanity and brotha this is taking a toll on it. Also I found when I drank I would get sappy and want to call and backslide. So I drink still but not even close enough to make me backslide. I can't for my sake. You can do this.