Gabbysmom.... dont engage, dont engage, dont engage!! need to let things roll off my back (like they used to)
I see your point Sandi.. I need to wear that dress for me... not to try to catch his eye. UGH!
Ken.... It must mean something... he is constantly complaining to me & comparing that my life is better. My job is better, etc. He worries more than me, etc.... He is trying to make me feel guilty and that he has bettered my life. When he gets bad news about a work thing, he is sure to tell me about it so that I can worry too (ok, fair enough)... but, even if he has already fixed the issue hours before. He is sure to tell me as though it JUST happened. He allows me to believe its urgent and tries to make me worry too. He wants me to stress too. This comparison/guilt was a main issue for us. We argued about this kind of stuff all the time. Now that we are separated, he still complains that he makes my life better. Like I should reward him, somehow.
And like Heather said... always baiting me with a carrot that is always just out of reach!
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
