Things are still going well! We are still taking things slow. Hanging out on the weekend, and communicating every day. She tells me she loves me all the time and that she misses me when we don't see each other during the week. So far, so good!
I have gained a little more insight into the mind of a WAS through our conversations. I'm hoping some of you can take something positive from what I've found.
Again, the WAS IS thinking about you. There were periods of time during NC that I was convinced WAS didn't give a damn about me. She was posting pics on FB, smiling, going places etc. Turns out she was miserable. In fact, one photo she took of herself stood out. She was at her nieces dance recital. She posted a selfie looking so happy, carefree, and excited about life without me. She told me on Saturday night during our date, that she actually "lost it" during the recital, started crying so hard she had to excuse herself to the bathroom.
She also shared other instances where she really struggled. During my period of NC, as many of you remember, I thought she had completely forgotten about me. Not the case.
Something else I've learned is that sitches can turn around so very quickly! I'm amazed at how we went from NC, to contact every other week, to dating, to her telling me she loves me all the time.
To my fellow LBS's... don't give up. There is hope. There aren't guarantees. But until you reach the point where you no longer care, keep fighting the good fight! Things can and do change.
I have gained a little more insight into the mind of a WAS through our conversations. I'm hoping some of you can take something positive from what I've found.
Again, the WAS IS thinking about you. There were periods of time during NC that I was convinced WAS didn't give a damn about me. She was posting pics on FB, smiling, going places etc. Turns out she was miserable. In fact, one photo she took of herself stood out. She was at her nieces dance recital. She posted a selfie looking so happy, carefree, and excited about life without me. She told me on Saturday night during our date, that she actually "lost it" during the recital, started crying so hard she had to excuse herself to the bathroom.
Thank you Thorn for sharing this and really happy with how things are progressing for you. Stories like this really do give the rest of us hope.
M:36 W:34 T:9,M:4 Me,WAH:7/2011 My apology:12/2012 Her,WAW:01/2013 ILYBINILWY:4/2013 W's EA:5/2013 Sep:9/2013 2nd EA signs:03/2014
Thank you! Sometimes it's a struggle to see others' successes and wonder what my own future holds. Thanks for taking the time to share. And I am really happy you are seeing such great progress!!
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
Thank you so much for sharing this! Having only seen W for an hour in the last 3 weeks and basically going NC unless it regards the kids, it has been very emotionally hard. Reading this has been a bright ray of hope!
M:35 W:31 S: 9 D: 5 M: 11.5 yrs BD: 5/13 W moved out: 7/13
I'm so glad to hear about things going well for you and your W and also how much you have come together! I feel a bit a drift since receiving the Divorce decree. But perhaps I need to muddle through this. I told my IC about DBing and she sounded very weary of it. Sorry to thread jack but I'm so happy for you.
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Me 34 M 2.5 (Both 2nd M) My kids-D 17,S 16,S 12 BD 2/14 D final 7/2014
