How do the rules and DBing in general fit in the context of marriage counseling?
They don't fit at all with some MC! And sometimes, it can cause confusion for you, not knowing which way to go.
From what I have seen on the board, if there is a WAS (and especially one in an A) MC is not very helpful in bringing the couple together. Mainly due to the WAS not wanting to work on the R. However, I do believe a MC who is solution based (and familiar with MWD's material)could give support to the LBS. But don't attend as a couple, b/c you will face resistance from the WAS.
I do believe once the couple has moved into piecing the M back together again, they certainly need a good solution-based C to help guide them. Difference is that in "piecing"-- both are willing to work.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
